Mom's & Boy's

I called my mom yesterday, and wished her a happy M-day.  I almost forgot & that would’ve made today very bad!!:0  Not really, but I did almost forget.  I do love my Mom & thank God for her nurturing, insight, love, cooking:), etc…. and for sticking with my Dad when the going got tough.  I both admire & respect so much about my Mom. Mom, I love ya!!

Now, psychologists will tell you that boys are inherently wired around the age of 5, to disconnect from Mom, and start moving towards Dad & the whole man-hood thing. No, not becoming a man yet, but needing a Dad to look up to, and to have him teach and be the primary instructor of the boy.   I did all of that unconsciously with my Dad, but my Mom didn’t get it.  She, after about 15 years of marriage & four kids later, finally stopped trying to nurture me.  No, it wasn’t 15 years of marriage, it was 12!!!  LOL!!  Mom’s, please don’t do what my Mom did!!  I love her & yes call her, but I don’t need her as a nurturer anymore.  Boy, does that sound harsh?  It might, but Moms, you raise your children to leave, and especially your boy/s.  Let em go!!!:)  I can’t tell you how many men I’ve sat with over the years that have OMS (Over Mothered Syndrome).  There is a cure, and I only share that in private with men.  So, if you’re a man & you still have OMS, give me a call!! Seriously!!!

Now, to salvage the above thoughts, and to keep me from living in the Hirsch family dog-house.  I will say there is one thing that over the years has been a huge thing that my Mom has done for me.  She daily baths me in prayer.  Seriously!!!  Mom, when the nurturing stops, and your boy doesn’t need you anymore.  Ouch!!! There is something that he needs, whether he knows it or not.  Prayer!!   My Mom prays for me & my family everyday.  What is funny is she tries to use prayer requests to find out what is going on  in my life.   Oh well!!  Funny though!!  I firmly believe her prayers have carried me many a day, and I wouldn’t change that for the world.  I talk to her once a week!!

Mom’s……..The single best thing you can give your sons is lifting them up spiritually before God everyday.  I’ve been lifted up, lift your little men, or maybe big men up.  Don’t let them have to live with OMS!!! Having worked with men for so many years, I’m actually really shouting that prior statement.  It will save your sons a lot of heartache and grief in the long run.

A quick to Dad thought if you still have boys/young men in the house.  Lead, teach, instruct, model, and don’t let your son grow up with OMS.  If you see the signs, you probably aren’t being the Dad your son/s needs.  I’ve found that if men truly lead in the home, especially their boys, they will raise young men, and ultimately a man that will continue on the legacy of building true men.  Christ-likeness & manhood are synonymous!!!  I know 56 year old boys, still being nurtured by Mom.  Men, please don’t do that to your boys!!